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by Jaz James
Let’s be real: Your worth isn’t tied to anyone else’s opinion about your body. In an industry where looks are often front and center, it can feel like you’re always being judged. Whether it’s customers making comments—sometimes flattering, sometimes rude—or the constant pressure to live up to impossible beauty standards, it can be exhausting. But here’s the truth: You are so much more than what anyone sees on the outside. Your beauty, value, and power are already yours, and no one’s words can take that away.
Your Body is Yours
Your body is your canvas, your strength, and your expression—but most importantly, it’s yours. It doesn’t belong to anyone’s expectations, opinions, or judgments. You get to decide how you feel about it, how you care for it, and how you celebrate it. In a world quick to point out “flaws,” owning your body is a radical act. It’s looking in the mirror and saying, “This is me, and I’m amazing.” It’s embracing every part of yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks, and refusing to let negativity stick to you.
Some people, let’s be honest, don’t know how to keep their mouths shut. They feel entitled to comment on your body, thinking their opinions matter. Here’s the truth: those comments say more about them than they ever will about you. When someone makes a negative remark, remind yourself of these truths: Their opinion doesn’t define your value. You don’t have to let their words live in your mind. And you absolutely have the right to mentally or verbally set boundaries. A great internal response? “Their words reflect their insecurities, not mine.”
Your Body Tells Your Story
Your body tells your story—it’s proof of what you’ve lived through, what you’ve overcome, and who you are becoming. Stretch marks, scars, curves, muscles, or soft spots, all of it makes you unique. In a world obsessed with fake perfection, your authenticity is a breath of fresh air. When you embrace yourself, you not only honor your own beauty but show others how to do the same.
Learning to love your body doesn’t happen overnight, but you can start by shifting how you think about it. Speak kindly to yourself. Look in the mirror and say things like, “I am beautiful, I am strong, I am worthy.” It might feel awkward at first, but words have power. Care for your body with love. Stay hydrated, eat well, and rest when you can. Whether it’s soaking in a bath, taking a yoga class, or bingeing your favorite show, self-care reminds you that your body is worth loving and honoring.
Set Boundaries
Set boundaries with customers when needed. If someone crosses the line with their comments, you don’t have to take it. Politely redirect the conversation or let them know their remarks aren’t okay. And when negativity creeps in, focus on what your body can do. Your body carries you through long shifts, pulls off complex moves, and keeps you going through tough nights. Celebrate that strength, flexibility, and resilience. Surround yourself with people who build you up—friends and coworkers who remind you that you’re amazing as you are.
In the club, it’s easy to feel like your worth is tied to how you look or what others say about you. But here’s the truth: Your worth isn’t up for negotiation. It’s not based on anyone else’s opinions, and it’s definitely not determined by a comment, a tip, or a glance. You are already enough, just as you are.
And more than that, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Every curve, every scar, every part of you was created with intention and care. You are a masterpiece, designed by a Creator who sees you as beautiful, valuable, and worthy. So, walk confidently in that truth. Embrace who you are, and let the world see the fearless, incredible woman God created you to be. You are more than enough—you are extraordinary.
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Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.