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By Jaz James
For some parents, having a child who works as a stripper may feel like one of those unexpected turns. It can stir up a whirlwind of emotions—confusion, fear, or even guilt. But amid the storm, there is an invitation to surrender.
Surrendering Control
As parents, it’s natural to want to guide, fix, and protect our children. Yet, there comes a point where we must recognize that control is not ours to hold. Just as God has given us free will, so too has He given it to our children. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means trusting that the God who created them is still at work in their lives, no matter what path they are on.
Surrendering control means replacing worry with prayer. When we choose to bring our fears to God, we open the door for Him to work in ways we cannot see. Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Faith in God’s Timing
Sometimes, God’s work in our children’s lives is not visible to us. It may feel like they’re far from Him, but we must remember that God’s timing is not our timing. He sees the bigger picture and works in ways we cannot comprehend.
The Bible is full of stories where people took unexpected paths, only for God to use their journeys for something greater. Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery, but God used that experience to save a nation. The prodigal son wandered far from home, but his story became one of redemption and unconditional love.
Even when it feels like your child has strayed from the life you envisioned for them, trust that God’s hand is still guiding them.
Loving Without Conditions
The most powerful thing you can do as a parent is to love your child without conditions. Judgment and shame create walls, but unconditional love builds bridges. When you show your child that your love is steadfast, no matter their choices, you reflect the heart of God.
Remember, God’s love for us is not based on our behavior but on His nature. Your child needs to know they are loved—not just by you but by the One who created them.
A Journey of Surrender
Letting go of control and trusting God with your child’s journey is not easy, but it is freeing. It allows you to rest in the assurance that God’s love is deeper and His plans greater than we can imagine.
Pray for your child. Love them fiercely. Trust that the God who began a good work in them will carry it to completion (Philippians 1:6).
And when you feel overwhelmed, remind yourself: God loves your child even more than you do. He is working, even now, in ways you may not yet understand. Surrender your fears to Him, and rest in the peace that only He can provide.
Your child’s story is still being written, and so is yours. Let God be the author, and trust in His unfailing love to guide you both.
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Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.