Navigating Feelings of Guilt and Shame as a Parent

By Jaz James

Being a parent can be one of life’s most rewarding roles, but it can also be one of the most challenging. When your adult child takes a path you didn’t expect—like entering the adult entertainment industry—it can stir up a mix of emotions. You may feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, or even a sense of failure as a parent. These feelings are complex and deeply personal, but as followers of Christ, we are invited to navigate them through the lens of grace, forgiveness, and unconditional love.

Recognizing and Naming Your Emotions

The first step in addressing guilt and shame is recognizing and naming those emotions. You may feel guilty, wondering if you made mistakes as a parent that led your child to this choice. You may feel shame, fearing what others in your community or church might think. These emotions are real and valid, but they do not have to define you or your relationship with your child.

It’s important to remember that your child is an individual with their own journey. Their decisions do not erase the love, effort, and faith you poured into raising them. Acknowledging your feelings without judgment is the first step toward healing.

As Christians, we believe in a God who offers grace freely, not because we’ve earned it, but because He loves us. That grace applies to you as a parent just as much as it applies to your child. Guilt and shame can make you feel distant from God, but the truth is, His love is steadfast and unchanging.

Romans 8:1 reminds us, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” You don’t have to carry the weight of guilt for your child’s decisions. God doesn’t measure your worth as a parent by their choices—He measures it by His love for you, which is infinite.

Dealing with External Pressures

Shame is often amplified by the fear of judgment from others. You may worry about what your church family, friends, or community will think if they find out about your child’s profession. These fears are valid, but they don’t have to control you.

Remember that Jesus Himself was no stranger to judgment. He associated with those society deemed “unworthy” and was often criticized for it. He teaches us to prioritize love over appearances and compassion over judgment.

You are not defined by others’ opinions, and neither is your child. Hold onto the truth of Galatians 1:10: “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Guilt often comes with the feeling that you’ve failed as a parent. But holding onto guilt can create a barrier between you and the freedom Christ offers. Forgiving yourself doesn’t mean dismissing your feelings; it means surrendering them to God and trusting in His ability to bring healing.

Isaiah 43:18-19 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” God is always working to bring new life out of brokenness. Trust that He is working in your life and in your child’s, even when you can’t see it.

Finding Freedom in Christ

Christ came to set us free—not just from sin, but also from the burdens of guilt and shame. Freedom in Christ means accepting that we are loved unconditionally and that His grace is enough for every situation, including this one.

As you navigate your feelings, spend time in prayer and scripture, asking God to replace guilt and shame with His peace and reassurance. Meditate on verses like Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Freedom doesn’t mean the emotions will disappear overnight, but it does mean you don’t have to carry them alone.

At the heart of parenting is love—love that mirrors the unconditional love God has for us. Your child needs your love, your prayers, and your support, even if their choices differ from your expectations.

Choose to see your child through God’s eyes: as someone loved, valued, and made in His image. Extend grace to them just as God extends grace to you. Pray for their safety, well-being, and spiritual growth, and trust that God is working in their life in ways you may not yet understand.

You Are Not Alone

If you’re struggling with guilt and shame, know that you are not alone. Many parents face these feelings, and God sees and understands your heart. Lean into His grace, surround yourself with supportive people, and give yourself permission to release the burdens you’ve been carrying.

God’s plan for you and your child is bigger than you can imagine. Trust in His promises, rest in His grace, and walk forward in the freedom that comes from knowing you are deeply loved and fully forgiven.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

Body Positivity in the Club: Embracing Yourself as You Are

 by Jaz James

Let’s be real: Your worth isn’t tied to anyone else’s opinion about your body. In an industry where looks are often front and center, it can feel like you’re always being judged. Whether it’s customers making comments—sometimes flattering, sometimes rude—or the constant pressure to live up to impossible beauty standards, it can be exhausting. But here’s the truth: You are so much more than what anyone sees on the outside. Your beauty, value, and power are already yours, and no one’s words can take that away.

Your Body is Yours

Your body is your canvas, your strength, and your expression—but most importantly, it’s yours. It doesn’t belong to anyone’s expectations, opinions, or judgments. You get to decide how you feel about it, how you care for it, and how you celebrate it. In a world quick to point out “flaws,” owning your body is a radical act. It’s looking in the mirror and saying, “This is me, and I’m amazing.” It’s embracing every part of yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks, and refusing to let negativity stick to you.

Some people, let’s be honest, don’t know how to keep their mouths shut. They feel entitled to comment on your body, thinking their opinions matter. Here’s the truth: those comments say more about them than they ever will about you. When someone makes a negative remark, remind yourself of these truths: Their opinion doesn’t define your value. You don’t have to let their words live in your mind. And you absolutely have the right to mentally or verbally set boundaries. A great internal response? “Their words reflect their insecurities, not mine.”

Your Body Tells Your Story

Your body tells your story—it’s proof of what you’ve lived through, what you’ve overcome, and who you are becoming. Stretch marks, scars, curves, muscles, or soft spots, all of it makes you unique. In a world obsessed with fake perfection, your authenticity is a breath of fresh air. When you embrace yourself, you not only honor your own beauty but show others how to do the same.

Learning to love your body doesn’t happen overnight, but you can start by shifting how you think about it. Speak kindly to yourself. Look in the mirror and say things like, “I am beautiful, I am strong, I am worthy.” It might feel awkward at first, but words have power. Care for your body with love. Stay hydrated, eat well, and rest when you can. Whether it’s soaking in a bath, taking a yoga class, or bingeing your favorite show, self-care reminds you that your body is worth loving and honoring.

Set Boundaries

Set boundaries with customers when needed. If someone crosses the line with their comments, you don’t have to take it. Politely redirect the conversation or let them know their remarks aren’t okay. And when negativity creeps in, focus on what your body can do. Your body carries you through long shifts, pulls off complex moves, and keeps you going through tough nights. Celebrate that strength, flexibility, and resilience. Surround yourself with people who build you up—friends and coworkers who remind you that you’re amazing as you are.

In the club, it’s easy to feel like your worth is tied to how you look or what others say about you. But here’s the truth: Your worth isn’t up for negotiation. It’s not based on anyone else’s opinions, and it’s definitely not determined by a comment, a tip, or a glance. You are already enough, just as you are.

And more than that, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Every curve, every scar, every part of you was created with intention and care. You are a masterpiece, designed by a Creator who sees you as beautiful, valuable, and worthy. So, walk confidently in that truth. Embrace who you are, and let the world see the fearless, incredible woman God created you to be. You are more than enough—you are extraordinary.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

Praying for Your Child: Specific Prayers for Strength and Protection

By Jaz James

As parents, watching your adult child choose a path you might not fully understand can stir up a mix of emotions. You love them deeply and want the best for them, but you might also wrestle with concerns for their safety, well-being, and spiritual journey.

Here’s the good news: no matter where your child is in life, you can bring them to God in prayer. Prayer is not about fixing them or changing their decisions—it’s about entrusting them to the One who loves them even more than you do.

Below are specific ways to pray for your child, focusing on their safety, emotional and spiritual growth, and protection from harm. Each prayer is paired with a Bible verse to remind you of God’s promises.

---

Pray for Safety

In a profession that can sometimes bring risks, ask God to surround your child with His protection. Pray for safe travels, good health, and protection from any harm or danger.

“For He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways.” – Psalm 91:11

Prayer:
Lord, I lift my child up to You. Please place Your angels around them to protect them wherever they go. Keep them safe from harm and guide them away from situations that could cause danger. Thank You for being their shield and their refuge. Amen.

---

Pray for Emotional Well-Being

The weight of judgment and the pressures of life can take a toll on emotional health. Pray that your child feels peace, love, and acceptance—not just from others, but from within.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

Prayer:
Father, I pray that You bring peace to my child’s heart. Where they feel doubt, replace it with confidence. Where they feel judged, remind them of Your unconditional love. Help them to know their worth is not defined by their job, their past, or what others say—it is defined by You. Amen.

---

Pray for Spiritual Growth

Even if your child is not actively pursuing faith right now, pray for God to draw close to them. Trust that He is working in their life, even in ways you cannot see.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

Prayer:
God, I know You have a plan for my child, and I trust in Your timing. I pray that they feel Your presence in their life. Open their heart to Your love and truth in a way that feels personal and real to them. Help me to be an example of Your grace and faithfulness. Amen.

---

Pray for Protection from Harm

Ask God to protect your child from physical, emotional, or spiritual harm. Pray for discernment in their decisions and for healthy relationships that build them up.

“The Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.” – Psalm 121:8

Prayer:
Lord, please protect my child from harm—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Surround them with people who have their best interests at heart, and give them wisdom to recognize unhealthy situations. Cover them with Your protection and peace. Amen.

---

Pray for Strength

Pray that your child has the strength to face the challenges in their life with courage and resilience.

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” – Psalm 46:1

Prayer:
Father, give my child the strength they need to face the challenges in their life. When they feel weak, remind them that You are their source of power and hope. Let them know they are never alone, and that You are always with them. Amen.

---

Trusting God with Your Child

As parents, it’s natural to want to fix things, to shield your child from pain, or to redirect their choices. But the most powerful thing you can do is pray—and trust God to work in His perfect way.

He loves your child more than you ever could, and He is always working behind the scenes, even when it doesn’t feel obvious. Rest in that truth, and keep lifting your child up in prayer.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. God sees your heart, hears your prayers, and is walking with you every step of the way.

"Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." – 1 Peter 5:7

Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep loving. God’s got your child—and you—in His hands

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

Unstoppable Love: Why God’s Grace Has Your Back—No Matter What

 by Jaz James

Let’s be real for a second—life can feel like a stage, and not just the one you’re dancing on. People are quick to judge, to whisper, to act like they know your story when they’ve never walked a step in your shoes. Maybe you’ve even caught yourself wondering, “Could God really love me for who I am?”

The answer? Absolutely, 100%, no doubt about it. God’s love is the real deal—no strings, no conditions, no fine print.

God Loves You as You Are

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to clean yourself up, change who you are, or hit some invisible “good enough” mark to be loved by God. He loves you right here, right now, just as you are. Whether you’re working late nights or living in the spotlight, His love is constant.

And guess what? There’s nothing you’ve done—nothing you could ever do—that would make Him stop loving you. Romans 8:38-39 spells it out:
"I’m convinced that nothing—absolutely nothing—can separate us from God’s love."

That includes your job, your past, your doubts, and even the moments you feel like you don’t measure up.

Let’s Talk About Shame

If you’ve ever felt weighed down by shame—like you’re not enough or like God’s disappointed in you—you’re not alone. So many of us carry that weight, but here’s the thing: Shame isn’t from God. That heavy feeling that tells you you’re unworthy? It’s a lie.

God doesn’t look at you and see mistakes or failures. He looks at you and sees someone He made with purpose and beauty.

One woman put it like this:

"I used to think I had to get my act together before God would love me. But one night, I just sat down and talked to Him, no filter. It was messy and raw, but I felt this crazy peace, like He wasn’t mad or disappointed—He just loved me."

That’s what grace feels like. It’s like taking off a mask you didn’t even know you were wearing and realizing you’re already enough.

Grace Is Bigger Than Judgment

God’s grace isn’t a prize for being perfect—it’s a gift for being human. He doesn’t ask you to earn it. He just asks you to trust that it’s real. Ephesians 2:8-9 says it best:
"God saved you by His grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it’s a gift from God."

Grace means you don’t have to be perfect, and you don’t have to have it all figured out. It means God loves you even when you’re not sure you love yourself.

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

Faith isn’t about checking boxes or following rules—it’s about knowing you’re not alone. God’s not some faraway figure waiting to strike you down. He’s the one standing beside you, whispering, “I see you. I love you. I’m here.”

Take a second and talk to Him, just like you’d talk to a friend. You don’t need fancy words or perfect prayers. You can be real. God already knows your heart, and He’s just waiting for you to let Him in.

You Are Loved, Period

Here’s what I want you to take away: You are loved. Not “if” loved. Not “when” loved. Just loved. Right now. Always.

So when the world gets loud with its judgment, tune it out and tune into the truth: God’s got your back. His love isn’t about where you work, what you’ve done, or what others say. It’s about you, exactly as you are.

And that? That’s grace. It’s yours to hold onto, no matter where your journey takes you.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

When the Path is Unclear: Trusting God with Your Child’s Journey

By Jaz James

Parenting is a journey filled with hope, love, and, sometimes, heartache. We pour our hearts into our children, praying they will grow into people who live fulfilling lives and reflect the values we’ve taught them. But what happens when they take a path we didn’t expect? How do we respond when their choices challenge our understanding of success or faith?  

For some parents, having a child who works as a stripper may feel like one of those unexpected turns. It can stir up a whirlwind of emotions—confusion, fear, or even guilt. But amid the storm, there is an invitation to surrender.  

Surrendering Control  

As parents, it’s natural to want to guide, fix, and protect our children. Yet, there comes a point where we must recognize that control is not ours to hold. Just as God has given us free will, so too has He given it to our children. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means trusting that the God who created them is still at work in their lives, no matter what path they are on.  

Surrendering control means replacing worry with prayer. When we choose to bring our fears to God, we open the door for Him to work in ways we cannot see. Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us:  

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Faith in God’s Timing  

Sometimes, God’s work in our children’s lives is not visible to us. It may feel like they’re far from Him, but we must remember that God’s timing is not our timing. He sees the bigger picture and works in ways we cannot comprehend.  

The Bible is full of stories where people took unexpected paths, only for God to use their journeys for something greater. Joseph’s brothers sold him into slavery, but God used that experience to save a nation. The prodigal son wandered far from home, but his story became one of redemption and unconditional love.  

Even when it feels like your child has strayed from the life you envisioned for them, trust that God’s hand is still guiding them.  

Loving Without Conditions  

The most powerful thing you can do as a parent is to love your child without conditions. Judgment and shame create walls, but unconditional love builds bridges. When you show your child that your love is steadfast, no matter their choices, you reflect the heart of God.  

Remember, God’s love for us is not based on our behavior but on His nature. Your child needs to know they are loved—not just by you but by the One who created them.  

A Journey of Surrender  

Letting go of control and trusting God with your child’s journey is not easy, but it is freeing. It allows you to rest in the assurance that God’s love is deeper and His plans greater than we can imagine.  

Pray for your child. Love them fiercely. Trust that the God who began a good work in them will carry it to completion (Philippians 1:6).  

And when you feel overwhelmed, remind yourself: God loves your child even more than you do. He is working, even now, in ways you may not yet understand. Surrender your fears to Him, and rest in the peace that only He can provide.  

Your child’s story is still being written, and so is yours. Let God be the author, and trust in His unfailing love to guide you both.  

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

New Year, New Energy: How to Set Realistic Goals

By Jaz James

The New Year is here, bringing fresh opportunities and the hope of starting anew. Whether you’re focused on improving your finances, caring for yourself better, or growing as a person, setting realistic goals is the first step to creating the life you want. Achieving your dreams doesn’t require perfection—just small, consistent steps that add up over time. Let’s dive into how you can make 2025 the year of progress and empowerment.

Planning for Financial Stability

Money can feel like a rollercoaster, especially when tips fluctuate and unexpected expenses arise. However, a little planning can go a long way in creating financial stability. Start by setting a small savings goal, even if it’s just $10 or $20 a week. Over time, that cushion can grow into a safety net for unexpected needs or future dreams. Tracking your spending is another simple but powerful habit. Using an app like Mint or jotting down expenses in a notebook can reveal patterns and highlight areas where you can cut back. And don’t forget to plan for taxes. As an independent contractor, setting aside 20–30% of your earnings can save you from surprises when tax season arrives.

Personal Growth

Caring for yourself is not a luxury—it’s a necessity, especially in a job that demands so much physically and emotionally. Make self-care a priority this year by carving out time for yourself each day, even if it’s just 10 minutes to breathe, meditate, or stretch. Fuel your body with healthy meals that include plenty of protein and veggies to sustain your energy. And when your body and mind need rest, give yourself permission to say no to late-night plans and prioritize sleep without guilt. Rest is an essential part of showing up as your best self, both at work and in life.

Personal growth doesn’t require an extreme overhaul of your life. Small, intentional steps can lead to meaningful progress over time. This year, consider trying something new—whether it’s reading a book, journaling, or learning a skill you’ve always been curious about. Focus on one goal at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and work on it gradually. Whether you want to improve your mindset, strengthen relationships, or explore your spiritual life, taking it one step at a time will keep you moving forward. Don’t be afraid to seek support. Finding a mentor, a supportive friend, or a group of like-minded people can provide encouragement and accountability on your journey.

Many people find that faith offers hope and direction for their personal growth. A simple prayer, a moment of gratitude, or reflection on what truly matters can provide clarity and strength. If you’re open to it, take a moment to explore how faith or spirituality might support your journey this year.

Progress Over Perfection

The New Year is not about achieving perfection—it’s about progress. Celebrate your small wins, forgive yourself when things don’t go as planned, and remind yourself that you are valuable and loved, no matter where you are in your journey. Let’s make 2025 a year of showing up for ourselves and our dreams. You’ve got this!

What’s one goal you’re excited to tackle this year? Share it with someone you trust or write it down for yourself—every small step counts!

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

When Your Adult Child's Choices Challenge You: Communicating with Care

 by Jaz James

As parents, it can be challenging to see your adult child make decisions you may disagree with, especially regarding big life choices like their career, relationships, or lifestyle. After years of guiding and protecting them, stepping back and allowing them to navigate their path can feel unfamiliar and even unsettling. However, maintaining a loving and supportive relationship is essential, even when you disagree.

Start With Love, Not Judgment

When addressing difficult topics with your adult child, it’s important to start with love rather than judgment. Remind yourself that your love for your child is the foundation of your relationship. Approach conversations with a desire to understand, not to criticize. For example, you might say, “I love you, and I want to understand more about why this choice feels right for you.” Resist the urge to immediately share your concerns or opinions. Instead, give your child space to explain their perspective without interruption. Listening first shows respect and lets them know you value their thoughts. Open-ended questions like “Can you tell me more about why this is important to you?” or “What made you decide to take this path?” can encourage dialogue and mutual understanding.

Acknowledge Their Independence

It’s natural to want to guide your child, but it’s important to acknowledge that they are now adults making their own decisions. Recognizing their independence demonstrates that you trust their ability to choose their path. A statement like, “I know you’re an adult and capable of making your own decisions. I trust that you’ve thought about this carefully,” can reinforce their autonomy while maintaining your supportive role.

If you feel the need to share concerns, do so with care and in a constructive, non-judgmental way. Avoid framing your concerns around your preferences or expectations. Instead, express your desire to see them happy and fulfilled. For instance, you might say, “I just want to make sure this decision brings you the happiness and security you’re looking for.” Avoid comments that could create tension, such as “Why can’t you be more like…” or “I would have never done that at your age.” Instead, focus on understanding your child’s unique perspective and goals.

Express Your Concerns with Care 

It’s okay to share your feelings, but do so without placing blame or guilt. Use “I” statements to keep the conversation open and non-confrontational. For example, you might say, “I’m having a hard time understanding this choice, but I want to support you as best as I can.” Even if you don’t agree with their decision, offering unconditional support can strengthen your relationship. Let them know you’re there for them, no matter what. A simple statement like, “I may not fully understand, but I’m here for you if you need me,” can provide reassurance.

As a parent of an adult child, it’s important to recognize that your role has shifted from decision-maker to adviser and supporter. Embrace this new dynamic by offering guidance only when it’s welcomed and allowing your child to take the lead in their decisions. If you’re struggling to accept their choices, take time to reflect, pray, or seek counsel. Finding peace within yourself can help you approach the situation with more grace and understanding. No matter how the conversation goes, remind your child that your love for them is unconditional. Reassurances like, “I may not have all the answers, but I’ll always love you and be here for you,” can go a long way in keeping the lines of communication open.

Final Thoughts

Navigating these conversations isn’t always easy, but with patience, understanding, and a commitment to love above all else, you can maintain a strong, healthy relationship with your adult child—even when you don’t see eye to eye. If you’ve faced similar challenges, feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments. Your story could encourage another parent walking the same path.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.

---

Seeing Yourself Through God’s Eyes

 by Jaz James

As an entertainer, you’ve probably heard a lot of opinions about who you are and what you’re worth. People may try to label you, judge you, or define you based on your job, your body, or your choices. But let me tell you something powerful: Your worth isn’t determined by the club, your audience, or even your own doubts. Your worth comes from God. You were created by Him, loved by Him, and He sees you as beautiful and priceless.  

Fearfully and Wonderfully Made  

Let’s start with a truth that may be hard to believe at first:  

"I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well." (Psalm 139:14, NIV)  

Fearfully and wonderfully made means you were designed with purpose and intention. That body of yours—the one that can twist, turn, and move with such grace—is no accident. God gave you strength, flexibility, and artistry, and it’s not just about your physical abilities. Your creativity in how you express yourself, your ability to connect with others, and even the resilience that keeps you going—those are all reflections of the God who made you.  

So the next time you’re on stage or in a mirror, remember this: you’re not just moving to the beat. You’re embodying the masterpiece God created you to be.  

You Are More Than What the World Sees  

In the club, it’s easy to feel like people only see the surface: your body, your performance, your image. But God sees so much more. He looks beyond the outward appearance and sees your heart.  

"The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." (1 Samuel 16:7, NIV)  

You might feel like you have to put on a mask—whether it’s makeup, confidence, or even a stage name. But God knows the real you, and He loves that version of you deeply. You are more than a dancer, more than a performer. You are His child, and nothing can change that.  

God’s Love Defines Your Worth  

Sometimes the job can feel like a rollercoaster. Some nights, you might feel powerful and confident. Other nights, you might feel invisible, judged, or even ashamed. But here’s the good news: God’s love for you never changes.  

"But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8, NIV)  

Think about that: even on your worst day—when you feel broken, tired, or unworthy—God loved you enough to send His Son for you. That’s how much you matter to Him. Your worth isn’t something you have to earn; it’s something God freely gives because of who He is, not what you do.  

Seeing Yourself Through God’s Eyes  

So how do you start to see yourself the way God does?  

First is to remind yourself of His truth. Spend time in Scripture or affirming words. Write down verses like Psalm 139:14 or Isaiah 43:4 and look at them often.  Next, pray honestly: Talk to God about how you feel—whether it’s confident or broken. He wants to hear from you, just as you are.  You also need to reject the lies. The world may tell you that you’re only valuable for how you look or what you do, but God’s truth says you are loved, chosen, and enough.  Lastly, celebrate your gifts. The way you move, connect with people, or overcome challenges is part of who God made you to be. Honor those gifts by thanking Him for them.  

A Final Word of Encouragement  

You are not defined by your past, your job, or anyone else’s opinion. You are defined by God’s love. And that love says you are precious, worthy, and enough.  

"Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life." (Isaiah 43:4, NIV)  

The next time you doubt your worth, remember this: God sees you. He knows you. And He loves you exactly as you are. You are His daughter, His masterpiece, and nothing in this world can ever change that.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico

From Judgment to Joy: Supporting Your Stripper Child with Christian Grace

 by Jaz James

As a parent, it can be incredibly difficult when your child’s career choices don’t align with the dreams or values you had for them. If your child is a stripper, you might feel a mix of emotions—sadness, frustration, confusion—but even amid those feelings, you have a unique opportunity to be a source of love, hope, and encouragement in her or his life.

While the path your child has chosen may seem far from what you imagined, God calls us to love without condition, just as He loves us. Philippians 4:8 reminds us to focus on things that are true, noble, right, pure, and lovely. This perspective can help guide how we interact with our children, especially when navigating difficult situations.

Here are a few ways you can be a positive influence and encouragement to your child:

Choose Unconditional Love

One of the most powerful things you can do for your child is to love them unconditionally. While you may not agree with their career choice, your child still needs to feel valued, loved, and accepted by you. Show them that your love for them is not based on what they do but on who they are.

In 1 Corinthians 13:7, we are reminded that Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Let this be your guiding principle. When your child knows they can count on your love, it opens the door to deeper conversations, healing, and trust.

Pray for Them Without Ceasing

Prayer is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. Even if you don’t know how to guide them, God knows their heart and their needs better than anyone else. Pray for their safety, their well-being, their future and that they will encounter God’s love in a transformative way.

Ephesians 6:18 tells us to pray on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. Lift your child up in prayer daily, asking God to give you wisdom on how to encourage them and trusting Him to work in their life.

Speak Life and Hope Over Them

It can be tempting to constantly express your concerns or disapproval, but remember that your words have power. Instead of focusing on what you see as negative, speak life into your child’s future. Remind them of their worth, their unique gifts, and the amazing potential God has placed inside them.

Proverbs 18:21 tells us, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Use your words to build up, encourage, and uplift your child. Compliment their character, their strengths, and their resilience. Let them know that you believe in them and that God has a purpose for their life.

Be Present and Listen

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply be there and listen. Your child may be dealing with challenges, emotions, or struggles that they aren’t sharing. Being a safe, non-judgmental space for them to talk can foster openness and healing. Let them share their experiences, their feelings, and their thoughts without immediately trying to fix or correct them.

James 1:19 encourages us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” Being present with empathy and patience can build trust, showing them that you truly care about what’s happening in their life.

Share God’s Love with Gentleness

As a Christian parent, you likely want to share the love of Christ with your child. While it’s important to share your faith, remember to do so gently and with respect. Let your actions reflect Christ’s love, kindness, and grace more than your words.

1 Peter 3:15 reminds us to share our hope in Christ, “But do this with gentleness and respect.” When your child sees the consistency of God’s love through you, they are more likely to be open to conversations about faith.

Celebrate Their Achievements

Even if you don’t agree with their job, your child likely has other goals, dreams, and achievements. Celebrate those victories! Whether it’s a personal accomplishment, a step forward in a hobby, or something as simple as completing a project, recognizing these positive moments helps affirm your child’s worth beyond their career.

By celebrating who they are as a whole person, you communicate that they are valuable for so much more than their job title. This can foster deeper conversations about their passions, hopes, and future.

Offer Practical Support

Another way to be a positive encouragement is to support your child in practical ways. This doesn’t mean endorsing their career, but rather being there for their emotional and physical well-being. Maybe they need help with finances, a place to stay, or just someone to talk to. Being a steady presence in their life offers them stability and safety.

Acts of service, even in small ways, reflect the heart of Christ, who came to serve others in love. John 13:34 reminds us, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

Keep Trusting God’s Plan

Perhaps the hardest part is surrendering your child to God’s plan for their life. Even when it seems like they’ve strayed from the path you would have chosen for them, God is still working in their heart. Trust that He knows them even better than you do, and His plans for them are full of hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).

God’s timeline may look different from ours, but He is faithful. Keep believing that He is drawing your child closer to Him, even if you don’t see immediate changes.

Being a parent is never easy, and watching your child make choices you don’t understand can be heart-wrenching. But by choosing to love, encourage, and support them in a Christ-like way, you can be a powerful influence in their life. Trust that God’s love is bigger than any situation, and that He is always at work.

Stay hopeful, keep praying, and remember that your love and encouragement can make a lasting impact on your child’s journey.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico

Finding Peace: Calming Strategies for Life on Stage and Off

by Jaz James

Working in a high-energy, fast-paced environment like a club can be exhilarating, but it’s also demanding. Navigating this world with a sense of inner peace can feel like an uphill battle. But there are simple practices that can help bring calm and balance. Here are a few tips that use grounding techniques to create a bit of peace, even during a busy night or after a long shift.

Start Each Day (or Night) with Intention

Begin each day (or shift) by grounding yourself in a calming intention. Whether that’s through a quiet moment, a favorite verse, or a mantra, giving yourself a peaceful start can make a big difference. One verse that can be comforting is Psalm 46:10: “Be still, and know that I am God.” This simple line is about finding strength in stillness, even when life feels like it’s moving fast. Think of it as a reminder that you have a safe space to return to within yourself.

Use Breath Prayers or Mantras for Quick Moments of Calm

Taking deep breaths and repeating a short, calming phrase can help you quickly find balance when you’re feeling stressed or anxious. Try repeating something like, “Breathe in calm, breathe out stress.” Or, if you’re open to scripture, the phrase “Peace fills me, stress leaves me” echoes Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything… the peace of God will guard your hearts.” These short mantras can center you in a matter of seconds, wherever you are.

Find Tiny Breaks to Reset Your Mind

During a long night, taking even a one-minute break can be powerful. Step away if you can, or just pause to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, or focus on a peaceful image or thought. A simple verse that can help is Isaiah 26:3: “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast.” Think of these moments as mini resets for your mind and body—stepping into a calm space that’s just for you.

Practice Gratitude to Stay Grounded

Gratitude isn’t always easy, especially on a tough night. But reflecting on one or two things you’re thankful for can give your mind a breather from stress and help you focus on the positives, even when things feel chaotic. These don’t have to be major things—maybe it’s a song that came on, a kind smile from a co-worker, or the fact that you got through a challenging shift. Ending the night with a gratitude habit is a quiet way to find peace.

Kindness as a Way to Create Calm

Being kind to others—even just through small gestures—can help bring peace into your night. A verse like Proverbs 12:25, “Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up,” reminds us of the impact kindness has. Small acts, like a smile or a compliment to a co-worker, help create a better environment, and by focusing on kindness, you invite more calm into your space.

Let Go of What’s Outside Your Control

There’s a lot in a club that you can’t control, and stressing over things out of your hands only adds to the weight. A verse like Matthew 6:34, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself,” reminds us to focus on the here and now. Instead of letting things you can’t change drag you down, release that worry and focus on what you can handle in the moment.

Wind Down with a Moment of Peace

After a shift, take a few minutes to mentally let go of the night. You might try Psalm 4:8: “In peace, I will lie down and sleep, for you alone make me dwell in safety.” This gives you a moment to close the day with a sense of peace, letting go of the stresses, and resting with a calm mind.

Finding Peace in the Stillness

These tips are about using moments of stillness and simple practices to bring calm into your day, no matter the pressures around you. By incorporating a few of these habits, you can find a steady balance that helps you stay grounded, focused, and strong—even when the world around you feels chaotic.

*****

Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that currently serves over 300 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico